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2025 Recap

Dearest Gentle Reader, Season’s greetings 🀍 If I’m being honest, I didn’t keep all the promises I made to myself and to you guys in January 2025πŸ₯Ί. And for a long time, that bothered me a whole lot. But looking back now, I understand why. Last year needed me to pause, to learn, to unlearn, and to grow, and I’m grateful for every part of it. One of the biggest lessons came from choosing a career path. As a Microbiology graduate who genuinely enjoyed every aspect of the course (weirdly so), deciding what direction to take wasn’t easy. I felt pulled in many directions, unsure of where I truly belonged. Eventually, I ran back to God for clarity and slowly, things began to align. That clarity led me to academic writing. It was something I had always been interested in but never quite knew how to begin. When I finally took the leap, it was challenging, exciting, and deeply fulfilling. I’m incredibly grateful to everyone who referred me, trusted my work, and supported my journey. Thank you f...

The Burden of Being the Family Bank at 22

Imagine being 22, still in university, and expected to pay for your parent’s international trip (like they literally decided to japa but you have to fund it while still in school). Add to that the pressure of paying rent, sending money home, and supporting your younger siblings—all while you're still trying to figure out your own life. Sounds unreal, right? But for so many Nigerian youths, this is the harsh reality. πŸ˜” I’ve been lucky not to face this burden, but I’ve met so many younger than me who are carrying responsibilities much older than them. And it’s not just about money—it's the stress and emotional toll of having to grow up too fast. We all know Nigerian parents work hard to provide for their children, often sacrificing their own comfort to ensure their kids have a better life. My parents, for example, would do anything to make sure I'm okay. I can’t even begin to explain how much I appreciate their sacrifices, and I’d give them my last dime without hesitation. ...

Your Timeline or Theirs? The Reality of Growing Up in Nigeria

If you’re Nigerian, you already know the drill. Step into a family gathering, barely settle in, and Auntie Tee slides over with a smirk 😏, “ So, when are we coming to eat rice? ”    It’s like the second you walk in, the “ When will you marry? ” question just gets unlocked, literally like they are waiting to see you for no other reason than ask “ Yenyenyen ”. And trust me, this isn’t just once or twice; it’s every family event, every single owambe, every holiday, like clockwork. I used to think, “ Is there something wrong with my timeline? ” Everyone seems to have an agenda for my life that, somehow, starts , revolves around and ends with marriage. Like, let’s pause for a second, hold on a bit— I’m out here chasing my dreams, building my career, learning new skills, and they’re still focused on me finding “ the one. ” For real? you dey whine? As much as I want to find love, I’d like it to happen on Gods time, not because I’m dodging family and their bombastic side-eyes or soci...

Adulting 101: Life After NYSC – The Struggle, The Glow-Up, and Trusting God’s Timing 🌱✨

Welcome to  Post-NYSC Inferno —that strange phase where you’re juggling “Wow, adulting!” and “Please, someone take me back to uni life. Ohh can I get my monthly allowances back.” If you’re fresh out of NYSC, you’re probably swimming in “What’s next?” moments and trying to keep it all together and you’re probably getting a thousand and one “What next” question from friends and family. The truth? Life after NYSC is no walk in the park, but it’s where the real journey begins. Here’s the lowdown on how to navigate this transition like a boss and keep your sanity (and your faith) intact. 1. Expectations vs. Reality: Where’s All the Hype?  πŸŒπŸ’Έ You know that feeling—thinking,  “My dad’s got some connections. We got this! ”  plus the numerous “ After NYSC send me your CV. I gat you” Only to realize… they don’t got this. It’s that classic  “Wait, what?”  moment when the “big connections” your parents hinted at turn out to be, well, less big than you imagined. Mean...