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2025 Recap

Dearest Gentle Reader, Season’s greetings ๐Ÿค If I’m being honest, I didn’t keep all the promises I made to myself and to you guys in January 2025๐Ÿฅบ. And for a long time, that bothered me a whole lot. But looking back now, I understand why. Last year needed me to pause, to learn, to unlearn, and to grow, and I’m grateful for every part of it. One of the biggest lessons came from choosing a career path. As a Microbiology graduate who genuinely enjoyed every aspect of the course (weirdly so), deciding what direction to take wasn’t easy. I felt pulled in many directions, unsure of where I truly belonged. Eventually, I ran back to God for clarity and slowly, things began to align. That clarity led me to academic writing. It was something I had always been interested in but never quite knew how to begin. When I finally took the leap, it was challenging, exciting, and deeply fulfilling. I’m incredibly grateful to everyone who referred me, trusted my work, and supported my journey. Thank you f...

In Loving Memory of Pappy

  I finally want to talk about it. I miss you. Always. If you asked me how I felt the morning it happened, I’d probably say “worried,” but if you asked me deeper, I’d say my soul disconnected from my body halfway through a journey I wish I never took. It was a Sunday. I had gone to church—dressed, focused, minding my business—when I got a call from home:  “Come home.”  That was it. No panic, no drama, but something in me stirred. Days before, daddy hadn’t been feeling too strong, so I assumed maybe it was that. I packed up and started the journey back. About an hour and a half. Halfway through, boredom made me scroll through Facebook—and that’s where my world started to tilt. His photo. A classmate’s post. “RIP.” At first, I was just pissed. Like, seriously? I called him immediately, ready to drag him for not telling his friends to chill with that kind of joke. He didn’t pick up. I remember thinking,  maybe UNIOSUN’s light is out again , because he always had his pho...

NYSC and Identity: Who Are You Without Everything Familiar?

— Part 2 of the NYSC + Faith Series Let’s be honest: NYSC is that one thing you know is coming , but when it finally lands? It slaps harder than NEPA taking light mid-braiding session. ๐Ÿ’€ One minute you’re chilling, scrolling TikTok, eating Gala in peace... the next? “Upload your green card.” “Buy white-on-white.” “Print your call-up letter.” Like huh?? I just blinked! ๐Ÿ˜ญ My whole room turned into Lagos traffic. My mum and I are fighting over what bag I should carry (of course she wants to pack my whole village ๐Ÿ˜’ ), and somehow I’m up by 2AM googling “How to survive camp with a sensitive stomach” because yeah... your girl has one. If you know, you KNOW . ๐Ÿ˜ฉ And nobody warned me that NYSC comes with identity crisis as part of the starter pack. Once that call-up letter drops, everything you know just vanishes. Your food? ๐Ÿฅฒ Gone. Your routine? ๐Ÿšฎ In the bin. Your peace of mind? Oya, collect shege . Next thing I know, I’m dragging cooler like I’m the camp caterer, ro...

How to Make a Cheating Man Change and Come Back

So you’ve been cheated on. Played. Disrespected ( well if you look at it well you weren't disrespected it was just a mistake). You want him to stop acting a fool and crawl back to you with a sorry face, flowers and promises that he’ll never mess up again. ๐Ÿ˜’I know the story. You’ve tried being the perfect woman. You’ve done everything “right.” Been sweet, loving, patient, and understanding, thinking maybe—just maybe—he’ll realize that you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to him. Maybe this time he’ll stop messing around and make you his one and only. Because why wouldn’t he, right? Here it is— to make him change, all you have to do is… Waitttt—hold up! Were you actually thinking I was going to give you the secret formula to make him change and crawl back to you? Really?  Are you seriously thinking there’s some magic trick to make him change? You actually believe there’s a secret formula to make him come to his senses and be loyal? Well, let me burst your bubble real quick...

Detours, Delays & Decisions: Not where i thought I'd be

  So… this week’s blog post was supposed to be part of the NYSC Series—you know, the one where we laugh/cry about camp trauma, PPA wahala, and everything in between. But I had to take a detour. Because honestly? Life has been lifing, and it felt right to pause and talk about something else: career decisions, God, and the big fat confusing waiting season. And maybe also because… adulting knocked me out. First, A Confession I haven’t posted a blog in about a month. Not because I didn’t have things to say (my draft choke), but because life came at me fast. You know those seasons where everything feels like too much and not enough at the same time? That’s where I’ve been. Adulting humbled me. It made me take a step back—from writing, from posting, from pretending like I had things figured out. So to everyone who noticed the silence—I’m sorryyyyyy. I missed you too so so much. Now, let’s talk . The “What Next?” Question Nobody Prepares You For You finish school, maybe you serve (or you’...